Being Dumped

Hampir semua orang pasti pernah mengalami patah hati. Bahkan teman saya yang sangat anti dengan namanya relationship pun pernah mengalami patah hati. Yak, patah hati memang seperti sakit flu, menyerang siapa saja tanpa pandang jenis kelamin, orientasi seks, umur, dan sebagainya.

Baru saja dua minggu yang lalu saya diputuskan oleh pasangan saya yang sudah jalan selama 2 bulan ini. Percaya tidak percaya, biasanya firasat bahwa hubungan kita akan berakhir biasanya sering muncul sebelumnya. At least dalam kasus saya. Alasan saya diputusin simple sebenarnya. He's just not into me. Penyampaian yang diungkapkan ketika diputusin memang bisa sejuta kata dan bahasa, namun intinya tetap sama.

The worst part of being dumped is, it brings your self esteem to the lowest point, feeling unwanted and all. Apalagi ketika kita sudah mati-matian berusaha memperjuangkan sebuah hubungan, eeeh ternyata si dia menyerah. Marah, tidak terima, sakit hati, kecewa dan semua sinonimnya bercampur aduk menjadi satu. Anyway, when you're just not that into someone, do you think if you give it some time, somehow time will transform your heart to love him eventually? If yes.. how long do you think will it take?

Semalam teman saya berkomentar ketika dia mengetahui bahwa saya baru 2 bulan jalan ketika putus. "Yahh.. baru dua bulan mah ga papa kaleeee.. kirain udah brapa lama..." begitu komentarnya. Then I suddenly wondered, why do people always think a quality of a relationship based on how long the relationship last? Well, in my point of view that's not always true. Menurut saya seberapa banyak hal-hal termasuk hati, pikiran, tenaga, waktu, memori dan lain sebagainya diinvestasikan di hubungan itulah yang membuat seberapa dalam kualitas sebuah hubungan tidak peduli berapa lama kita berhubungan. Saya ingat sekali ketika saya pernah berada di semacam Holiday Retreat, saya bertemu dengan orang baru disana. Acara tersebut hanya berlangsung selama 3 hari saja, namun bond antara saya dan teman saya sangatlah kuat saat itu. We spent like breakfast, lunch and dinner together... Talked about many things and feel connected. Ketika acara selesai dan kami harus kembali ke kota masing-masing, it felt like something is missing (agak lebay memang haha). Perasaan yang agak mirip ketika kita kehilangan orang yang kita sayang, padahal helloo.. I might barely knew that person right? So, I think that when you meet the right person (at least you think you've met), it doesn't take a month, a year or even a decade to actually prove a quality of a relationship.

When we get dumped..I think the only thing we need to do is just to face the truth, deal with it, move on and get on with life. The question would be.. "How?" and "How long?" or in the worst case mungkin ada yang bertanya "Should I? Why Should I?", "What if he's the one?" Well things come with its consequences, I must say. The worst thing is you can dwell in the broken heart situation as long as you like but you may lose the opportunity of some new guy to meet you. But I believe human have the ability to cope and survive on every situation regardless how or how long will it take.

Well about me, umm.. I think I'll deal with getting dumped by writing blog and talk about all the craziness, questions and all inside my head.

Good luck in getting over him..

PS : I always love this quotes when I got dumped, "Life is too short to waste your time trying to get people to like love or care for you. If they can't love you for you then it's their loss. You may just lose someone who just not love you anyway, but he loses someone who really love him."